I am polyamorous, and have been for many a year. I cultivate and maintain a network of secure attachment relationships with people who are also polyamorous, who often have multiple partners of their own.  I prefer to date and partner with experienced poly people, and occasionally someone crosses my path that feels so aligned that this policy goes out the window, and I get to date a polynewbie.  

There will be many more posts on relationships in the 21st Century, and in the meantime, this one is where I will be sharing some of my favourite poly quotes, adding to it as the months go by. 

Please be aware, while I am happy to discuss relationship dynamics, I am not interested in any negative commentary, and will block any source of unthinking, rude or obnoxious messages. 

I hope you enjoy these thoughts. I tend to use the Canadian English spelling of polyamorous, but when posting quotes I use exactly what and how it was published. 

”The quality of a polycule is directly proportional to the communication skills of its least emotionally secure member.
Or, if you prefer something gentler, less absolute, more accepting.
A polycule’s health depends less on its most skilled communicator, than on how well its least secure member feels heard. ” – @chrismcbean.bsky.social

“Polyamory (noun): when multiple people are plotting to care about you, a wholesome conspiracy” – @PolydotLand

“Polyamory is NOT endless orgies, nor is it cuckoldry with extra steps.

Polyamory is two idiots walking down the street holding hands debating with one another about how each of them should ask out their respective crushes, and then neither of them following through.” – @5aximus

“Solo polyamory helps me go at a comfortable pace. Now that I’m no longer entering relationships with a particular goal in mind, like marriage or cohabitation, I’m not in a rush to find out whether a partner can give me those traditional markers of relational success/fulfilment.” – @unapolygetic

“Your significant other is allowed to have meaningful relationships with other people. Your significant other is allowed to get things from those relationships that they don’t get from you. Demanding you be the only source of pleasure and support in their life is possessive and toxic.” –  @LadylsAVamp_

“Solo polyamory is finding it more enjoyable to opt in to spending time with people as opposed to opting out to get my own space.” – @PolyamAwareness

“Relationships fail when people take their own insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws.”- @stevemaraboli