Let’s cut to the chase, ladies. Finding “The One” in today’s dating hellscape is like trying to find a decent avocado at a big-box grocery store—rare, questionable, and often too much effort. While you’re out there swiping, mingling, and dodging unsolicited shirtless selfies, there’s a case to be made for keeping a trusty friend-with-benefits (FWB) in the picture. Now hear me out, and don’t judge until I finish. 

The Safety Net of Sanity
Dating is stressful. The constant parade of first dates, awkward small talk, and deciding whether “I’m an entrepreneur” means he has an actual job or just resells sneakers on eBay can leave even the most composed among us clutching our wine glasses like life rafts. A good FWB is like the emotional support animal of modern dating: no drama, no long-term expectations, just reliable comfort. You don’t have to wonder if he’ll text back because, frankly, you don’t care. You’re not analyzing his Instagram likes. He’s just… there. Like your favorite pair of yoga pants—comfy, reliable, and never demanding more than you’re willing to give.

Keeping the Spark Alive
So, let’s get real, everyone deserves a little intimacy while waiting for love to show up (if it ever does). And the FWB arrangement lets you bypass all the nonsense. There’s no need to impress him with your career achievements or flawless skincare routine because he’s already in on the secret: you’re human, and you both know what you’re there for. Bonus points if your FWB is a decent conversationalist who actually laughs at your jokes instead of pretending he’s too cool to find you funny.

The Ego Boost
Nothing will remind you of how fabulous you are like having someone who’s more than happy to meet you for late-night “Netflix and chill.” Sure, he’s not offering moonlit strolls or deep discussions about your childhood dreams, but sometimes all you need is someone to make you feel sexy while Mr. Right is busy ghosting you after three weeks of excellent banter.

Practical Considerations
You know what’s great about an FWB? They don’t monopolize your weekends. They don’t care if you’re out dating other people. And they sure as hell aren’t asking why you haven’t introduced them to your parents yet. It’s a low-maintenance situation that leaves you with plenty of bandwidth to focus on swiping left on anyone who lists “alpha male” in their bio.

The Rules of Engagement
Now, before you dive in, let’s be clear: this isn’t a Hallmark movie where you and your FWB accidentally fall in love and spend eternity baking cookies together. That’s rom-com nonsense, and we’re too grown for that. Keep it casual. Keep it light. And for heaven’s sake, pick someone who knows the difference between FWB and BF, as well being skilled and experienced enough to guide you to climax! If he starts bringing you flowers or asking about your five-year plan, it’s time to cut him loose.

When Mr. Right Appears
Ah, but what happens when your dreamboat finally sails into view? Simple: you retire your FWB like an old pair of running shoes. Sure, it was fun, but the relationship was built on convenience, not forever. Thank him for his service and move on. If he’s really your friend, he’ll understand—and probably applaud your upgrade.

Ladies, life is too short to wait around with an empty dance card. A good FWB can be the perfect stopgap while you’re searching for your great love—or at least a guy who doesn’t text “u up?” at 3 a.m. So go ahead, embrace the arrangement. After all, it’s your world—he’s just visiting.