Objective vs. Subjective Truth: Can Reality Be Independent of Perspective?

With many of our political leaders and wannabes being even more flexible with facts these days than usual, especially during elections and internal party races, I felt I needed to get back into the whole Truth vs.Transparency debate.  The notion that truth depends on perspective is a long-standing debate in philosophy, epistemology, and even science. This idea, often associated with relativism, suggests that truth is not absolute, but rather contingent on individual experiences, cultural backgrounds, or frameworks of understanding. However, this claim is not without challenges, as there are also arguments in favor of objective and universal truths. To fully explore this concept, we must examine different domains where truth operates: subjective experience, science, social and political contexts, and philosophical thought.

Perspective and Subjective Truth
In many aspects of human experience, truth is shaped by individual perspective. This is especially evident in perception, memory, and personal beliefs. Two people witnessing the same event might recall it differently due to factors such as their background, cognitive biases, emotional states, or even the angle from which they viewed the scene. This idea aligns with psychological research on eyewitness testimony, which has shown that memory is often reconstructive rather than a perfect recording of reality.

Similarly, in moral and ethical debates, truth is often perspective-dependent. For example, the moral acceptability of euthanasia, capital punishment, or animal rights varies across cultures and individuals. Some believe that these issues have absolute moral answers, while others argue that they are contingent on cultural norms, social circumstances, or personal values. This form of truth relativism suggests that moral truths exist only within particular frameworks and are not universally binding.

The same can be said for aesthetic judgments. Whether a painting is beautiful or a piece of music is moving depends entirely on the individual’s perspective, cultural exposure, and personal taste. In these cases, truth appears to be entirely relative, as there is no objective standard for determining beauty or artistic value.

Scientific and Objective Truth
While subjective truths are shaped by perspective, there are many instances where truth appears to be independent of personal viewpoints. In science, for instance, objective truths are discovered through empirical evidence and repeatable experimentation. The boiling point of water at sea level is 100°C, regardless of who measures it or what they believe. The theory of gravity describes forces that apply universally, irrespective of individual perspectives. These facts suggest that some truths exist independently of human perception and belief.

However, even in science, perspective plays a role in shaping how truths are understood. Scientific paradigms, as described by Thomas Kuhn in The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, shift over time. What is considered “true” in one era may later be revised. For example, Newtonian physics was once seen as the ultimate truth about motion and force, but Einstein’s theory of relativity redefined our understanding of space and time. This suggests that while some scientific truths may be objective, our understanding of them is influenced by perspective and historical context.

Social and Political Truths
In social and political discourse, truth is often contested, shaped by competing narratives and interests. Political ideologies influence how events are interpreted and presented. The same historical event can be described differently depending on the source; one news outlet may highlight a particular set of facts while another emphasizes a different aspect, leading to multiple “truths” about the same event.

This phenomenon is especially evident in propaganda, media bias, and misinformation. A politician may claim that an economic policy has been a success, citing certain statistics, while an opponent presents an alternative set of data to argue the opposite. In such cases, truth becomes less about objective reality and more about which perspective dominates public discourse.

Additionally, postmodern thinkers like Michel Foucault argue that truth is linked to power structures. Those in power determine what is accepted as truth, shaping knowledge production in ways that reinforce their authority. This perspective challenges the idea that truth is purely objective, suggesting instead that it is constructed through discourse and institutional influence.

Philosophical Challenges: Can Truth Ever Be Objective?
Philosophers have long debated whether truth is ultimately subjective or objective. Immanuel Kant, for example, argued that we can never access the world as it truly is (noumena), but only as it appears to us through our senses and cognitive structures (phenomena). This implies that all knowledge is shaped by human perception, making pure objectivity impossible.

On the other hand, Plato’s theory of forms suggests that there are absolute truths – unchanging, eternal realities that exist beyond the material world. Mathematical truths, for instance, seem to be independent of human perspective. The Pythagorean theorem is true regardless of culture, language, or opinion.

Existentialist philosophers like Jean-Paul Sartre take a different approach, arguing that meaning and truth are constructed by individuals rather than discovered. From this perspective, truth is not something external to be found but something we create through our actions and beliefs.

Is Truth Relative or Absolute?
The idea that truth depends on perspective holds significant weight in subjective, moral, and social contexts. In matters of perception, ethics, and politics, truth often appears to be relative, shaped by individual experiences, cultural backgrounds, and power dynamics. However, in science, mathematics, and logic, objective truths exist independently of human interpretation, though our understanding of them may evolve over time.

The challenge lies in distinguishing between what is truly relative and what is universally valid. While perspective influences many aspects of truth, dismissing the possibility of objective truth altogether leads to skepticism and uncertainty. A balanced approach recognizes that while some truths are shaped by perspective, others remain constant regardless of human interpretation.

Non-Hierarchical Polyamory Requires Strong Personal Boundaries

Polyamory, when practiced without hierarchy, can be liberating.
No primaries calling the shots. No pecking order. Just grown-up humans building intentional relationships.

But freedom doesn’t mean chaos. And connection doesn’t require constant visibility.

This is a guide to practicing non-hierarchical polyamory with strong personal boundaries – for people who believe in honesty, not overexposure; in love, not surveillance; and in building sustainable relationships that don’t burn everyone out.


🔸 Truth Is Enough

“No, I’m not available tonight.”
That’s the truth. Full stop. It doesn’t need a follow-up essay.

In a culture that glorifies radical transparency, there’s pressure to explain yourself constantly –
❓Who you’re with
❓What you’re doing
❓Why someone else got your time

That’s not truth. That’s emotional bookkeeping.

In this model, truth means what someone needs to understand you – not every detail of your personal life. You are not a contestant in someone’s ranking system. You’re a whole person. Privacy is not betrayal.

🔸 Honesty Isn’t a Weapon

Honesty matters – but, not all honesty is created equal.

Too often, “radical honesty” becomes an excuse to dump emotional weight without care.
Let’s call it what it is: emotional discharge without consent.

Instead, ask:

  • Is this honest and kind?
  • Is the timing respectful?
  • Has the other person consented to this level of openness?

🗝 Good honesty is relational, not performative.
If it’s not asked for, or if it’s about your anxiety more than their needs, maybe it’s not time to say it.

🔸 Transparency Is a Choice, Not a Virtue

In some poly circles, transparency becomes a tool for control:

  • 🗓 Shared calendars turned into scoreboards
  • 🕵️ “Open access” used to snoop
  • 📢 Disclosures demanded to prove loyalty

This isn’t transparency. It’s surveillance.

In this framework, transparency is always opt-in and consent-based.
It’s a tool, not a virtue. Use it where it builds connection – not resentment.

🔸 Discretion Is an Act of Love

Discretion doesn’t mean secrecy. It means respecting privacy with care.

  • 💬 Not everyone wants to know everything.
  • 👂 Not every detail needs to be shared.
  • 🛡 And not all relationships want to be laid bare.

Discretion is choosing grace over total access.
It’s knowing how to protect dignity while staying honest.

🔸 Boundaries Make Freedom Sustainable

In non-hierarchical poly, where nothing is pre-defined, boundaries are your framework.
They’re not about control. They’re about clarity.

✒️ Examples of healthy boundaries:

  • “I need 24 hours’ notice before committing to plans.”
  • “I don’t share who I’m seeing unless it’s relevant.”
  • “I’m not available for emotional processing late at night.”

A boundary is how you take care of yourself – and tell others how to love you well.
🛠 It’s not a wall. It’s a tool.

🔸 Emotional Self-Regulation: Your Feelings, Your Job

You will feel things: jealousy, rejection, insecurity. That’s real.
But what you do with those feelings? That’s what makes or breaks your dynamic.

💡 Emotional self-regulation means:

  • Not reacting from your most triggered state
  • Asking for support, not compliance
  • Taking responsibility for your emotional landscape

Instead of:
❌ “Why didn’t you choose me?”
Try:
✅ “I’m feeling vulnerable – could we plan some time together?”

You’re allowed to feel. You’re just not entitled to offload your reaction onto someone else.

🔸 You Don’t Owe 24/7 Access

Say it again:
You don’t owe constant availability.

You can:

  • Say no
  • Ask for time
  • Turn off your phone
  • Decline a request without guilt

Your value doesn’t come from how available you are.
It comes from how authentic you are – even in saying no.

🔸 Build the Polyamory You Can Sustain

This is non-hierarchical polyamory for grown-ups.
It works best when it’s:

  • ✨ Rooted in respect
  • 🛠 Framed with boundaries
  • ❤️ Practiced with care
  • 🕊 Protected with discretion

You don’t need more rules. You need more self-awareness.

And if you’re constantly explaining yourself, justifying your schedule, or sharing things just to soothe someone else’s anxiety –
That’s not polyamory. That’s a pressure cooker.


🖋 Final Thought

You can choose transparency.
You can practice honesty.
You can love widely and deeply.

But only if those things are in service of connection – not control.

This is the polyamory of people who know themselves.
People who protect their peace.
People who choose love, and freedom, with care.